What Men Wish Women Knew About Us

Women, men can never seem to understand them; it’s like a jigsaw puzzle that’s missing some pieces. Yet we try to put it together anyway. I know I have tried numerous times to understand, and each time I am left confounded, dazed, confused, and irritated. However, if you are expecting an article on how to understand women, then you have the wrong article…..go away.

I’m just playing about the go away part, but I wasn’t about this article is not about understanding women. Instead this article is all about what men wish women knew about us. There’s a rhyme and reason why some things are the way they are.

For example, honesty, we start off brutally honest, yes, it gets us into trouble; yes we know what women want to hear. We care though, it’s true some men you find won’t be honest, but consider how many girlfriends he has had. It’s easy for us to lie to a stranger, or a co-worker, or even to a friend at times; but we care about you ladies, and to be honest, the more you penalize us for telling you that the dress makes you look chubby (don’t kill me), or your breath smells like a rotten apple, etc.

Think how it affects us. I know if I told the truth and was penalized or got in trouble, I would censor what I say, or make it convoluted so it sounds better. We tell you the truth because we care, you (referring to all the ladies) are probably the only person we are willing to be so brutally honest with. I know it doesn’t make sense, but we’d rather tell you the truth before you go outside in that dress, and then feel bad because you do realize that it does make you look chubby.

Reliability, is another, ladies, when you have a guy friend who is single and he’s always there for you, even when your boyfriend ditches you at the movies for a party which he’ll probably get plastered at, appreciate it. I can’t tell you how many times I was there for a woman and never got a thank you, a hang out offer, or even a solid non-sobbing hug that doesn’t leave my shirt soaked.

If a guy is like that for you consider thanking him, or hanging out, furthermore consider the possibility that he likes you. There is nothing more irritating and devastating than seeing the woman you like walk away with a man that is a (word that rhymes with Lick, and begins with a D). I make us think that if we are that way too, we will get a girl, and it makes more men like that, and where does that leave us good guys?

Compliments!!!!!!!!! I can’t stress that enough. Men like to be complimented too. We enjoy that short but obvious stare when we lift things; we enjoy being objectified sometimes, a tap on the butt, or a verbal compliment. We enjoy being told we did a good job (but please don’t say it as though we are a dog, it demeans us, and do it enough times it really bothers us).

Battles and Wars, oh this one gets me all the time. Women how many times have you scolded your man for leaving the seat up and you falling in? How many times have you scolded him for forgetting something important? These are bothersome to us, and yes we know we did wrong, but those are small petty battles that distract from the good that we do. Does it really matter if the toilet seat is down if the yard is clean or if we forget something important when we remembered all the other important things; those are petty annoyances to us, we lose those battles all the time, but what gets us, is that those battles distract from all the other stuff.

Mindset, yes, we can be simple minded at times, and yes we can have tunnel vision. But most of the time it’s a ploy; we have thoughts beyond what we say, or do. Just because we don’t display them doesn’t mean we are simple. It all boils down to masculinity; it’s ingrained in our DNA, and into our society. We fight to show whose tougher, we proudly say we can bench 280, it’s all a show, we know that we are not the brightest at times, but we don’t have to show that. We set our selves at a lower standard so we don’t have to. This I can honestly say, is a guy thing, and it’s hard to explain, so I will move on.

Guy Time, men need to be alone with other men, it drains us when we are around women all the time, like girls have a girl’s night out, why not a guy’s night out. Don’t get me wrong, we love to be around you ladies, but we need time to hang out with guys, to go to the bar, there’s no need to drink even. Just hanging out with them makes us feel good, it a chance to show off our masculinity. Trust me, a man who feels good about himself and is secure in his masculinity will repay you tenfold in ways you can’t think of (no that was not a sexual innuendo, although passionate sex may be his payment).

Every man is different, some of these things you may already fulfill. It’s all about being in tune with him. I hope that this article helps you either keep that tune, or better tune yourself, because when you’re in tune with us, we are much more willing to tune ourselves to you.