Sex Addiction – Does It Affect Your Relationship?
Jason has sent me another article which will hit the nerves of many people. Are you in a relationship where your partner, or maybe you, visit certain websites that the other finds really offensive? You know the ones I’m talking about…and they are not relationship sites like this one! (I’m afraid to type the real word, as I know I will get a heap of spammy comments to delete! So we will call it a p*** site.)
What is considered morally right or wrong in a relationship and how it affects your partner, can be the undoing of a relationship. How do you feel, when the topic is raised? Does it make you feel uneasy and sick to the stomach? Or are you interested and wonder what all the fuss is about? Sex addition or p*** addiction destroys many relationships. Many men will say its just a man thing, all men do. Well, not all men do and not all women do.
As many of my regular readers know, Jason writes articles and comments on this blog regularly. You may think I have a biased opinion, especially if you are a man, whereas Jason is a young man in his early twenties, so hearing his take on the subject may be helpful to you…
Author: Jason
“Hmmm… Decisions, decisions. Should I log on to the p*** site? Eh, I will, not like I can get caught.”
Are those the thoughts that run through your head when your partner leaves, and you’re home alone? I know at times I feel like that. Like many relationships my partner doesn’t want me looking at p***. To guys it’s sexy seeing a woman watching it, but to women I think they see it as a bad thing. I know if my girl was watching it when I wasn’t home, and without telling me, I would feel that I was inadequate. I would think to myself “What am I doing wrong?”
Well, there’s one thing that I have to ask… What type do you watch? I noticed a trend that men, and women alike pick p*** based on what they like in sex or what they want to try, etc. So instead of breaking your partners trust in you and risk getting caught (and yes there are plenty of ways to get caught, even if you delete it from your history) why not talk to your partner about it.
It’s a very difficult subject to pull up in a conversation, and it may feel uncomfortable. P*** is “Taboo” after all. What I noticed though based on relationships I have seen, been in and so forth, p*** has always been a part of it. It is either in secrecy from a partner or together with a partner.
I think that people watch because, even though they love their partner and only want to be with them, something is missing for them. Fantasies run wild in a repetitive sex life, and people think to themselves “Things are going great between us; I don’t want to ruin it by changing it.” So people turn to p*** to fill that fantasy niche, so they are satisfied.
Time for another question!!! Wouldn’t you rather experience it rather than just watch it?
I know I would, granted all relationships are different, no two are the same. Ever. So just sit down and carefully, really carefully, talk about it to your partner. I am not saying to admit your past deeds, hell of a lot of hot water there, but talk, learn their fantasies, have them make a list of them, make a list of yours too.
After the list is done, if it gets that far, begin to plot for your partners fantasies. One day when your home alone, in the mood, and wanting to go on to the sites, instead, get things set up for a possible fantasy enactment for your partner. Surprise him/her with it, or just wait till later and let your partner relax before springing it out. (Yes I know that sounded wrong but I’m not gonna change it.)
Sex is great, fantasies are great too. The question is how to incorporate those two natural human desires, into one great wonderful sex life. We all have our own path and way. It all starts with asking and communicating clearly what you want for you and your partner. The worst that they can say is “No”. You may be surprised but you and your partner may have similar fantasies.
