Communication In Marriage Is Number One
When you get married, you are so in love and your plan is to stay happy together forever! We all know the vows…till death do us part…in sickness and in health…However, for a marriage to work, both parties must communicate. Communication in a marriage is extremely important if you hope to stay in it forever.
Communication In Marriage
There’s a reason why there are so many divorces and that’s because there’s no communication. For a marriage to be successful, you should never go to bed angry, you should always communicate with your partner regarding your feelings and you should both do your part to make sure the love lasts.
Unfortunately some people communicate through arguments. That’s just how some people show their feelings. If you are going to argue as a couple, it’s important to resolve your differences before you go to sleep. Don’t just roll over with your backs to each other. It is only going to be more difficult in the morning and someone or both…are going to be too stubborn to say sorry.
So make a pact before you get married to always reconcile your differences before you go to bed and you should have a long and healthy marriage. That’s the first key to communication in a marriage.
I remember being told by the lady who sold us our wedding rings, to say ‘I love you’ at least 3 times a day and to never go to bed angry. Well, she was right! We never go to bed angry and we say I love you all the time. We communicate with each other all day. Just for the record…we are together 24 hours a day, 7 days a week and after all these years, love each other more than the day we were married.
Communication is the key to our success and it can be yours too. Believe it or not, it is easy!
Are You Best Friends?
Many people don’t like to communicate their feelings. They feel it leaves them vulnerable or that it makes them seem weak in some way. However, when you get married, this person is supposed to be your best friend as well as your lover so you should be able to tell them anything.
Communication in marriage means telling that person what’s on your mind, no matter what it is. If you feel as though your partner is neglecting you, tell them so. If you feel that the other person likes to go out too much and spends too much money, tell them how you feel about it. If you never communicate in your marriage, the other person will never know they’re doing anything to hurt you and this could build another wall between the two of you. So always talk about your feelings and you will soon see that the two of you will become even closer than before.
Don’t build resentment…especially if your partner doesn’t know there is a problem. Do not assume they should know how you feel. Tell them nicely!
Do You Need Counseling?
If you can’t seem to communicate in your marriage, then it might be in your best interest to seek counseling. Don’t just rush into a divorce if you feel that things aren’t working out. You were married because you fell in love and saw yourself with that person ’till death do you part’…is there a chance you can make it work? If you can, it could be better and stronger than ever before. Try it and see.
Are There Really Secrets To A Happy Marriage?
So often we think that there are some tried and true secrets to a happy marriage, but are there really? Is there some special formula that will help you to have the best relationship in the world? Is there a way to guarantee that your spouse will love you until the end of time and never consider being with anyone else? You might wish this were the case, but the sad truth is that there is no special formula and there is no magic drink which you can feed to your spouse from time to time to keep them loving you. This doesn’t mean that you’re destined to float on the winds of fate when it comes to your marriage, because there are some things which you can and should be doing to keep your happy relationship, strong and alive.
Take The Time Each Day To Just Love Your Partner
No, this relationship advice doesn’t mean that you have to be physically intimate with your partner every day. Most of the time, things don’t work out that way and this expectation could cause things to get boring. However, taking the time to love your partner each day is one of the secrets to a happy marriage. If you make sure to touch your spouse, hug, kiss and just love your spouse each day, it not only helps to keep a concrete connection with your partner, but you and your partner can both go about your day secure in the knowledge that you are loved. When you know your spouse loves you and you love them, you’re less likely to do things to hurt your partner and you’re less likely to be hurt by your partner’s actions.
Trust, Trust, Trust
Probably the biggest secret to a happy marriage is trust. Everyone knows it, but they have a hard time enacting it. For this reason, it’s so important to be open about every single thing. Okay, well, maybe there are some things (such as bathroom habits) that you don’t need to share, but when it comes to money, purchases, career moves, who you talk to and interact with and even leisure time activities, it is so important to be completely forthcoming. If you’re thinking of joining a volleyball team for one night a week after work and you tell your spouse, they will be more likely to tell you that sounds like a good idea than wondering why you never thought to tell them.
Whenever you fail to share information it can be very hurtful to a spouse, so even if it’s shoes that you bought, just come out about it. Chances are, your partner really doesn’t care. You’ll find that when you’re open about the little things, the big things are easier to share as well and this will foster a feeling of trust in your marriage.
Of course, there are other secrets to a happy marriage, but you’ll probably find that each relationship is different, so it needs different things. When you learn to respect your relationship as much as you respect and love your partner, though, with a little guidance, it’s likely that you will learn the secrets to a happy marriage first hand.
