Communication In Marriage Is Number One
When you get married, you are so in love and your plan is to stay happy together forever! We all know the vows…till death do us part…in sickness and in health…However, for a marriage to work, both parties must communicate. Communication in a marriage is extremely important if you hope to stay in it forever.
Communication In Marriage
There’s a reason why there are so many divorces and that’s because there’s no communication. For a marriage to be successful, you should never go to bed angry, you should always communicate with your partner regarding your feelings and you should both do your part to make sure the love lasts.
Unfortunately some people communicate through arguments. That’s just how some people show their feelings. If you are going to argue as a couple, it’s important to resolve your differences before you go to sleep. Don’t just roll over with your backs to each other. It is only going to be more difficult in the morning and someone or both…are going to be too stubborn to say sorry.
So make a pact before you get married to always reconcile your differences before you go to bed and you should have a long and healthy marriage. That’s the first key to communication in a marriage.
I remember being told by the lady who sold us our wedding rings, to say ‘I love you’ at least 3 times a day and to never go to bed angry. Well, she was right! We never go to bed angry and we say I love you all the time. We communicate with each other all day. Just for the record…we are together 24 hours a day, 7 days a week and after all these years, love each other more than the day we were married.
Communication is the key to our success and it can be yours too. Believe it or not, it is easy!
Are You Best Friends?
Many people don’t like to communicate their feelings. They feel it leaves them vulnerable or that it makes them seem weak in some way. However, when you get married, this person is supposed to be your best friend as well as your lover so you should be able to tell them anything.
Communication in marriage means telling that person what’s on your mind, no matter what it is. If you feel as though your partner is neglecting you, tell them so. If you feel that the other person likes to go out too much and spends too much money, tell them how you feel about it. If you never communicate in your marriage, the other person will never know they’re doing anything to hurt you and this could build another wall between the two of you. So always talk about your feelings and you will soon see that the two of you will become even closer than before.
Don’t build resentment…especially if your partner doesn’t know there is a problem. Do not assume they should know how you feel. Tell them nicely!
Do You Need Counseling?
If you can’t seem to communicate in your marriage, then it might be in your best interest to seek counseling. Don’t just rush into a divorce if you feel that things aren’t working out. You were married because you fell in love and saw yourself with that person ’till death do you part’…is there a chance you can make it work? If you can, it could be better and stronger than ever before. Try it and see.
How To Save My Marriage
3 Tips on How To Save My Marriage
So you need some answers to ‘how to save my marriage?’ In many cases the longer the problems are allowed to grow, the resentment and anger are allowed to build up, the harder it can be to pull your relationship back from the brink. It can be difficult, but it’s not impossible.
There are several things you’ll need to have in place if you want your marriage to work and the first one is a burning desire to make it work. And it’s not enough for just one of you to have that, you both need to have it. If one or the other of you is indifferent, or worse, doesn’t want to, save the marriage, there really isn’t much that can be done. A marriage is a partnership, if you both aren’t working together it’s not going to work.
Take These Three Little Steps
1. So step one to answer the question: ‘how to save my marriage’ is to make sure you are both willing to put in the time and effort.
2. Step two is finding the exact issues that are plaguing you and finding solutions to them. It’s easy to think that your wife gets mad at you for leaving the toilet seat up or not putting your socks in the hamper, and while those things probably do annoy her, it’s not the reason your marriage is falling apart. They just add to the resentment, hurt and anger your wife is currently feeling because of something that you’ve said or done previously. The same holds true if your husband yells at you because you burnt his dinner or his shirts aren’t getting clean enough in the wash.
In order to really make things better you both need to determine what the real problems are… and fix those. Try to cut through all the excess issues and focus in on the real issues. Do the two of you really talk? Do you really know how to express love, affection, anxiety, or hurt in productive ways? Most people don’t. Until you can learn these skills you will continue to be misunderstood and frustrated. If neither of you knows how to communicate productively you’ll both feel alienated, frustrated, hurt and angry. That will not get you anywhere you want to go.
3. Step three is to find someone who can help you get to the point where you both know how to communicate honestly how you are feeling. If you do it the right way, your partner is much less likely to get angry and defensive. Part of learning to communicate is to know what to say as well as how to say it. If you say things in such a way as to make it sound like you are accusing your partner, or blaming them, than all you’re going to accomplish is to make your partner mad and they will lash out at you. Before you know it, the two of you are in a brawl and no one ‘wins’.
A good counselor can help steer the two of you in the right direction and help you each stay calm. They can teach both of you how to express yourself in a constructive manner that will increase the chances of being heard and decrease the chances of getting in a fight. This deceptively simple three step process can answer the question: how to save my marriage once and for all.
