7 Tips for Building Trust In A Relationship
March 5, 2010 by Mary
Filed under Marriage Advice, Relationship Advice
While there are certainly more than 7 tips for building trust in a relationship, these can be a really solid starting point if you are looking for advice on how to help your partner to trust you more. Without trust, a relationship is really nothing, so it’s important to be able to build trust for a strong lasting love.
1. Predictability goes a really long way toward helping to build trust. While it can be fun to be spontaneous, when you are setting the standard for a strong relationship, you want your partner to know you and you want to know them, so don’t act like one person one day and another on another day. This will only inhibit the growth that you can do in your relationship.
2. Match your words to your body language. So, if you’re saying that you love your partner, make sure that you show it as well. You would be surprised what’s conveyed without saying a word, so make sure that your actions really count.
3. Believe in your partner and their ability to handle, well… Life. When you are able to believe that your partner will be able to handle the situations thrown before them, you are saying that you trust them and when you trust them, they will trust you. It’s not just the trust you put in them to choose the right groceries; it’s a trust in your partner’s ability to make the right decisions and live according to a certain set of morals that the two of you share.
4. Secrets, secrets are no fun… Nothing could be closer to the truth in relationships. One of the best ways to build trust in a relationship is to make sure that everything is out in the open. When you can keep things open and honest, no matter how difficult it could be to do so, your partner can trust that there is nothing to hide and will be comfortable sharing with you as well.
5. Tell your partner what you need and stop expecting them to be mind readers. When you are able to tell your partner what you need for fulfillment in a relationship, you trust them not to laugh or degrade you in any way and the more you can trust them, the more your partner can trust you.
6. Its okay to say no every once in a while. Just because your partner is telling you what they need, doesn’t mean that you have to say yes. This is especially true if the need is outlandish or demeaning to you. So, if you’re not comfortable with what’s being asked, gently tell your partner no and hope that they can be okay with it. In the end, your partner will respect you for your decision.
7. Growing is good, so make sure you try it. Building a relationship is a lot like planting something. As you work on your relationship, you are trying to make it stronger and healthier, but also bigger. If you never confront painful subjects or areas where the two of you disagree, you will never fully see your partner, so don’t be afraid of things that might hurt. In the end, this growth will build a stronger, more trusting and happier relationship.
Good relationships have at least one thing in common: trust. The couples who trust can feel confident that their partner will not intentionally do anything to hurt them or their relationship, no matter how much they disagree or argue and this helps them to have a confident, happy relationship.
