Communication In Marriage Is Number One
When you get married, you are so in love and your plan is to stay happy together forever! We all know the vows…till death do us part…in sickness and in health…However, for a marriage to work, both parties must communicate. Communication in a marriage is extremely important if you hope to stay in it forever.
Communication In Marriage
There’s a reason why there are so many divorces and that’s because there’s no communication. For a marriage to be successful, you should never go to bed angry, you should always communicate with your partner regarding your feelings and you should both do your part to make sure the love lasts.
Unfortunately some people communicate through arguments. That’s just how some people show their feelings. If you are going to argue as a couple, it’s important to resolve your differences before you go to sleep. Don’t just roll over with your backs to each other. It is only going to be more difficult in the morning and someone or both…are going to be too stubborn to say sorry.
So make a pact before you get married to always reconcile your differences before you go to bed and you should have a long and healthy marriage. That’s the first key to communication in a marriage.
I remember being told by the lady who sold us our wedding rings, to say ‘I love you’ at least 3 times a day and to never go to bed angry. Well, she was right! We never go to bed angry and we say I love you all the time. We communicate with each other all day. Just for the record…we are together 24 hours a day, 7 days a week and after all these years, love each other more than the day we were married.
Communication is the key to our success and it can be yours too. Believe it or not, it is easy!
Are You Best Friends?
Many people don’t like to communicate their feelings. They feel it leaves them vulnerable or that it makes them seem weak in some way. However, when you get married, this person is supposed to be your best friend as well as your lover so you should be able to tell them anything.
Communication in marriage means telling that person what’s on your mind, no matter what it is. If you feel as though your partner is neglecting you, tell them so. If you feel that the other person likes to go out too much and spends too much money, tell them how you feel about it. If you never communicate in your marriage, the other person will never know they’re doing anything to hurt you and this could build another wall between the two of you. So always talk about your feelings and you will soon see that the two of you will become even closer than before.
Don’t build resentment…especially if your partner doesn’t know there is a problem. Do not assume they should know how you feel. Tell them nicely!
Do You Need Counseling?
If you can’t seem to communicate in your marriage, then it might be in your best interest to seek counseling. Don’t just rush into a divorce if you feel that things aren’t working out. You were married because you fell in love and saw yourself with that person ’till death do you part’…is there a chance you can make it work? If you can, it could be better and stronger than ever before. Try it and see.
So Many Relationship Issues
In every couples life there appear relationship issues; some are more serious than others. Time settles some of the problems and heals old wounds, while certain events continue to hurt long after a breakup. People tend to seek advice for their relationship issues from popular and professional sources. The former are family, friends, magazines and websites, and the latter include couples’ therapists and personal counselors.
It’s such a relief to be able to discuss your relationship issues with another person, someone who can give a word of advice or just be there to listen. A shoulder to cry on sounds like a bliss when you’ve had a big fight and you just feel like crying or finding relief. People deal with relationship issues in so many ways. There are couples who fight and make up quickly, there is good communication and they can discuss the matters that led to the fight. Such relationships are longer lasting and a good start for a marriage. But so much remains untold between thousands of couples.
And the wounds that remain deep inside, have the nasty tendency to resurface, and just as you thought things were good between you, something comes up and inflates the spirits. And from a trifle, what you thought to be behind you comes back and hits you in full swing.
Problems often settle in when the relationship issues remain unspoken and you take refuge in all sorts of substitutes. Some people drink, others overeat while a smaller percentage just have an affair to spite the other. Such a way of dealing with relationship issues points to serious problems in the couple’s life and clearly indicates an inability to cope with the difficulties without surrogates or false ‘aids’. The highest benefits in such circumstances come with psychotherapy.
The professional way of dealing with relationship issues is so much more advantageous because there is a pro guiding you through. When two people agree to see a therapist, they are doing themselves a big favor, because they thus commit to working hard to put their marriage or relationship on the right track. Knowing that there is still something to be salvaged forces people into action and although relationship issues are not that easy to solve, every small step matters, and progress is possible.
Going back together is for many couples a self-discovery process, and something good comes out at the other end of the journey.
