3 Tips To Save Your Relationship

Are You About To Breakup? Or Have You Already?

If you have broken up or you are about to breakup, you may be wanting to save your relationship. If you really want to, there are steps you can take to try to mend the problems. You have to ask yourself some questions. When you try to answer them, don’t lie…you are not talking to your partner here…you are talking to your ‘sole.’

Whether you’ve recently broken up, or you’re afraid you’re on the brink of a breakup, you can re-ignite the flame that the two of you once shared. It won’t necessarily be easy or fast, but if you’re committed to making it work there is hope to save your marriage.

3 Tips To Stop A Relationship Breakup

Here are some of the things you need to do to salvage and save your relationship. Keep these tips in mind when you are analyzing your relationship problems:

1. Do You Really Want To Stay In This relationship?

I know this may sound like a dumb question but sometimes when we think we want to keep our relationship what we really mean is that we’re afraid of having to find someone new, or starting over. If you’re brutally honest with yourself you can determine if you really want to continue the relationship or if you’re just scared of being on your own.

Another part of this question is to determine if your partner really wants to work on the relationship too. Even if you decide that your relationship is worth saving, that doesn’t mean your partner shares your conviction or will be willing to invest the time and effort to work on your problems.

2. What Went Wrong?

Again, this will need to be done by both of you. This can be the hardest part, it’s always easier to blame someone else for the problems but it’s tougher to own up to your part in the break down of your relationship.

Before you can repair it you need to know not only what is broken but why it broke. The two of you may even want to visit a couples counselor to help you objectively work through this phase. Sometimes having an objective third party in the room can help you both stay calm and face things you may not have been willing or able to face on your own.

3. What Was The Initial Attraction…or Spark?

Try to remember what drew you to each other in the first place. If you’ve been in a relationship for a while you obviously loved and enjoyed each other. So often in a relationship what happens is that the ‘stronger’ one (or the most selfish one) controls the relationship. They become the one who tends to take more than they give. The other partner will take on the role of the giver. Over time the ‘taker’ will get bored because the fun loving person they fell in love with has become a doormat and the ‘giver’ will get sick of not getting their needs met often enough.

If your relationship has fallen into this trap you both need to take a step back and remember what attracted you to each other. This might be a good time to not only remember but to tell the other person. Remind them why you fell in love with them, and vice a versa.

Saving a relationship will take time, work, and commitment by both parties, but it can be done. If you think your relationship is worth saving and your partner thinks so too, then the steps to fix the breakup is easy!