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Secrets To A Happy Marriage or Relationship

So often we hope that there are some tried and true secrets to a happy marriage or love relationships, but are there really? Is there some special formula that will help you to have the best relationship in the world? Is there a way to guarantee that your spouse will love you and you will be happy together forever and they will never consider being with anyone else?

I believe there is as I am living proof that there are relationships made in heaven.

Did I find the secret formula? I don’t think so…but I know that we treat one another with love, kindness and respect. Maybe they are the three ingredients.

You might wish this were true for you too. Well I am here to tell you it can be!

The sad truth is that there is no special formula and there is no magic potion which you can feed to your spouse from time to time to keep them loving you. This doesn’t mean that you’re destined to float on the winds of fate when it comes to your marriage, because there are some things which you can and should be doing to keep your happy relationship, strong and alive.

Take The Time To Love Your Partner

No, this relationship advice doesn’t mean that you have to be physically intimate with your partner every day, however, taking the time to love your partner each day is one of the secrets to a happy marriage. All you have to do is touch your spouse by giving them a gentle hug, a loving kiss or rub their tired shoulders. Just love your partner in a caring way each day, it not only helps to keep a concrete connection with you and your partner, it actually creates intimacy.

It makes for a happy relationship when you and your partner can both go about your day secure in the knowledge that you are loved and wanting each other. So many people need the physical side for reassurance, only because they don’t get the reassurance in other ways. When you know your spouse loves you and you love them, you’re less likely to do the things that hurt your partner and you’re less likely to be hurt by your partner’s actions.

Trust and Truth

Probably the biggest secret to a happy marriage is trust. Everyone knows it, but they have a hard time enacting it. For this reason, it’s so important to be open about every single thing. It is not just to trust your spouse from not cheating, but to trust them with other issues, such as money, purchases, career moves and other decisions they may make without you.

Do you trust them? Or are you always worried you may have a cheating spouse? Do you give them reasons to not trust you, by lying…even little white lies…about how much something cost, or how you were only doing this…when you were really doing that!

All these ‘little things’ make big things grow…huge! On the other hand, the little things you do for your partner, that are true and they can see via your actions, make for something big! Like a secure, happy, together forever relationship. It sounds easy and believe it or not, it really is.

Whenever you fail to share information it can be very hurtful to your partner, because they may assume you are hiding something from them. So if you weren’t wearing that old thing…that you only bought yesterday…or you actually had six drinks with the boys and a few of their girlfriends, instead of only a couple with a mate…why not tell them that…say the truth! Chances are, your partner won’t even care, because they will think, thank you for telling me truthfully. You’ll find that when you are open about the little things, the big things are easier to share as well and this will foster a feeling of immense trust in your marriage.

Communication

This is a big one. I could ‘talk’ all day on communication in a relationship. When you first start out dating, you communicate with one another all day long, you even talk about the silly things that aren’t even important, yet you still can’t wait to hear from one another, know matter how trite the subject may be. Most people end up talking to their best friend about everything and anything all the time…but not to their partner. Your best friend should be your partner and if they are, the bond that grows between the two of you is immeasurable. Once you can say your best friend is your partner, you will find you are living one of the secrets to a happy marriage.

Of course, there are other factors that make a happy relationship, but these are a start. When you learn to respect your relationship as much as you respect and love your partner, it’s likely that you will learn the secrets to a happy marriage first hand.

One more thing…never go to bed facing away from each other if you have had a disagreement. Leave that stupidity to the ‘dramatic movie makers’…as there is no place for that negativity in your life. For a start a scowl does not make anyone look attractive, whether you are male or female. Instead put a loving smile on your face and say a simple sorry. It doesn’t matter who’s ‘fault’ you think it is. It takes two remember? Your love is more valuable than some silly argument, especially if you want to be happy together forever!